Going no contact…
To break free from the trauma bond we must go no contact.
No contact works because it gives us space and time to detox from this emotional and mental state that we have become accustomed to.
Even just looking at a picture of the two of you together can set about those addicting feelings.
Avoiding social media or looking at photos that remind you of the relationship, will significantly help during no contact.
Once you have made the decision to leave, make it the final decision.
And if you can help it, do not stay in communication with your narc.
They see that as an open opportunity to hoover and manipulate you back into the abuse cycle.
The narc is like a persistent drug dealer tempting you with ‘just one more hit’ after you decided to quit.
Don’t make it harder for yourself than you have to!
If you can, block them from all avenues of contact, and don’t worry about what they might be up to.
Always remember, that the person you fell in love with never existed.
They are just an empty shell who fed off your emotional energy, and used that energy against you.
No contact works because they are not easily able to reach our thoughts and emotions.
Because this is how they manipulate us like pawns on a chess board.
It is also the best method that helps you keep your internal strength, peace and sanity whilst detoxing and detaching from the trauma bond they have created.
When we first separate from the narcissist our emotions will be all over the place.
Our mind, body and soul are going through the withdrawals from our addiction we had to the abuser.
This emotional state actually makes us more susceptible to manipulations.
Remember- they keep us in a state of confusion and anxiety during the relationship so we ARE easily manipulated.
The feelings we feel during a separation is similar which makes us vulnerable to the narcissist’s mind games, and that’s why no contact is a MUST.
If we decide to allow communication with the narcissist during separation, the narcissist has a very high chance of manipulating themselves back into our lives.
We cannot open the door to give them another chance to repeat the cycle of abuse.
Please read my previous post to help you go no contact and end the toxic cycle of abuse.
Conclusion…
No contact is the best way to deal with narcissistic relationships.
Focus on self-healing, self-love and self-care.
We may miss the narcissist during no contact, but that feeling is only created by the trauma bond.
You will grieve the the person and the relationship you thought you had.
But it was all an illusion, we are actually only grieving a fantasy that the narcissist had created in our minds.
If our love for the narc was real, then believe that there is someone else real out there that can reciprocate that real love back to us.
We deserve to receive the same love and respect we give to everyone else.
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