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The truth about the insults

What ever insults the narcissist throws at you, many times it has nothing to do with what they are actually saying.

Many victims can take the insults deeply personal, and that is the narcissist’s intention.

They want you to feel inferior to them, they want to make you feel insecure about the things that make you who you are.

They may insult and attack you for things that you have, like, or want,

for things that you do or for simply having your own views and opinions.

The narcissist doesn’t want you to have your own independent thinking because it makes them feel inferior.

And by insulting anything that you believe, it makes them feel superior.

They want the things they have and the things that they like and want,

to be superior to your beliefs.

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But most often they don’t even really like the things that they say they do,

because they have no real identity of who they are and what they actually like.

Most of the time, they won’t even mean the things they say,

and will often contradict and say the opposite later on.

Narcissists just want to disagree with you and win in the conversation so they can feel validated,

admired, important and powerful.  

And they hate the fact that you refuse to feel inferior to them by knowing exactly who you are,

what you like and what you want.

The narcissist gets supply and a huge ego boost when they watch you doubt your confidence.

Narcissists get extremely jealous of anything that others possess, that they want for themselves.

And their insults are targeted to destroy those very things.

Whether it is your confidence, attractiveness, your material wealth, the friends you have or the things that make you happy.

They cannot be happy and at peace when they see you happy.

Because it reminds them of how empty and miserable, they really feel on the inside,

thus triggering a deep envy filled with much hatred and rage.

But sadistically, they feel real happiness when they see other people suffering.

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Threats and intimidation

The narcissist will attempt to take what other people have and claim it as their own.

If they cannot take it, then they will attempt to destroy it, so nobody can have it.

Just like any bully, they get internal happiness and satisfaction when they know they have destroyed or taken from someone’s life. 

If a narcissist cannot break your confidence with verbal attacks and insults,

they may up their game by using passive threats and intimidation.

They do this passively, so they can easily deny it if they are called out on their behavior.

But their intent is to intimidate you into giving up your power to them.

They want to have control of you and the things you have in your life to keep you inferior to them.

By keeping you in fear of them, it allows them control to your emotions and ultimately your actions.

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Therefore, breaking your confidence and hindering your success in life.

Even though this intent is not easily detected,

it’s a sign of their internal rage that is hidden below the surface of the narcissist’s happy and confident vizard.

It is a simmering rage that is caused by their jealousy, inferiority, fear of losing control,

and many of the narcissist’s other fears and insecurities.

Their threats and intimidation tactics are used to exploit, to mask their fears, gain supply,

and make themselves feel powerful and in control.

We may feel like we are the weak ones when we choose to walk away from the narcissist.

But know that walking away is not weak,

it is protecting your energy and redirecting it towards more important matters.

It is smart, and it cuts supply to the narcissist when we are no longer apart of their games.

They want us to need and fear them, so they can feel in control.

And if there is something that we need from the narcissist, then it allows for the threats to work in their favor.

Narcissists may also seek to get their way through blackmailing and extortion.

The narcissist attacks those who are strong, whom they see as a threat to their ego.

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Strong independent individuals trigger the narcissist’s insecurities and this oppresses them.

Narcissists often feel weak towards those they attack.

That is why they attempt to bring them down so the narc can feel superior,

because this gives them a sense of their own self worth.

They are intimidated by confident people who express love and their own individuality without fear.

And they feel the need to intimidate and break down all self-assured individuals,

just so the narcissist can feel good about themselves.

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