It has nothing to do with you
Always remember that, the way the narcissist treats you has nothing to do with who you are.
They are extremely insecure individuals that only feel like they’re worthy when others feel worthless.
The narcissist is simply projecting their insecurities onto you, while blaming you for their actions.
Don’t take anything they do or say personally.
We should not live our life just to please the narcissist.
Because ultimately, you always end up losing, because nothing will truly ever, please the narcissist.
Everything in a narcissist’s life is about winning, just so they can feel in control.
Once you become a reason for the narcissist’s jealousy, it will be inevitable that they will want to compete with you.
It doesn’t take much to offend a narcissist’s ego.
Most of the time, you will not even be aware that you simply being yourself has somehow caused them a narcissistic injury.
Their hatred and jealousy will consume their thoughts and actions.
But their actions of vengeance can be so passive and covert we often don’t realize they are actually trying to undermine us.
They could pretend to help us out by giving us advice,
but the advice is false and it was intended to lead us astray towards failure.
The narcissist will not encourage you to succeed in anything.
They want to keep you down in a place where your confidence diminishes.
It is not a personal attack, but rather a defense mechanism to make them feel like they are winning.
They treat everyone like this, especially those who have success because it causes them a greater narcissistic injury.
Sometimes, instead of working hard to achieve their own success, they would rather spend their time taking success and glory away from others.
Or they will shamelessly exploit, ruin, manipulate and intimidate others when gaining their own success.
It sounds completely pathetic and childish, I know.
They have chosen to be bullies in life to make themselves feel secure,
just because they don’t want to deal with their insecurities or their emotions.
It doesn’t matter what you achieve in life, you will never be good enough to a narcissist,
because the narcissist will never feel good enough to themselves.
They project this feeling about themselves onto everyone around them.
And they will never want you to feel good about yourself.
The narcissist’s jealousy can cause major drama in anyone’s life.
It may cause huge emotional, psychological and relational destruction.
Trust your intuition.
If the narcissist is giving you a compliment with no emotion behind what they are saying,
it is likely because they are hiding their jealousy.
Empty words often feel empty when you hear them,
don’t ignore this possible red flag.
Stay grounded in your feelings, so you can trust yourself,
instead of believing what the narcissist is telling you.
If you feel confused or unsure about what they are saying,
it is often our gut feeling telling us that there is deceit in their words.
I am now more aware of a narcissist’s empty compliments, and will automatically grey rock in the conversation.
Other people may think I am a bitch for coming across cold or arrogant towards someone that appears nice.
But I would rather people think of me in that way than to play into the narcissist’s competitive games.
Appearances can be deceiving, do not care for other people’s opinions.
Protect your peace, protect your energy, for you and God knows the truth of the narcissist’s true and deceitful intentions.
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