When the grey rock method is not completely successful
Although the grey rock method is a very efficient strategy, we may find that in some cases this method does not work always work successfully.
If there is a significant power difference between you and your narcissist, this can impact greatly on the success of the grey rock method.
This can be relationships with your family members, romantic partners, people in the workplace and also in social settings.
Especially with those that possess a strong physical bullying and antagonizing personalities.
When someone reigns so more much more power over you, it can be overwhelming like we are always in a losing battle.
And it can feel like there is nothing we can possibly do that will overcome their abuse and control.
In these situations, we do need to consider our safety.
We can still minimize our interaction and conversation with them as much as possible.
Don’t share any personal information with them or anyone around them.
And keep any thoughts and feelings to ourselves until we can safely escape and remove ourselves from the toxic situation.
Consider having a plan, get professional support, tell a trusted person what you are going through and contact authorities.
It may also be impossible to use the grey rock technique successfully in the workplace with your narcissistic work colleagues or boss.
As communication with your team and team leader in the workplace is needed to complete workplace tasks and commitments.
We may tend to become people pleasers when there is a significant difference in power,
especially if we feel the narcissist has control over something that we need in our life.
But in time your inner confidence will grow and in the future you will have the power to grey rock,
to call them out or to go completely no contact.
The grey rock technique may not work for you at present,
but in the future you may find yourself in a position where it does work and it will benefit you greatly.
Conclusion
It may hurt us to experience abuse from the narcissist that has been close to us in our life.
And to realize that, all we ever were to them was just a convenient source of supply.
But just remember, it was never about us. The abuse was never due to us simply being ourselves.
It was only ever about the narcissist’s need for validation to upkeep their false identity.
And their need to abuse others to feel a sense of superiority that they feel protects their deepest insecurities and vulnerabilities.
Don’t ever feel guilty for grey rocking the narcissists in your life.
They do not feel guilty for always intentionally trying to hurt you and everyone else.
Grey rocking is not about hurting the narcissist, and you do not need to care about the effects this will have on them.
It is not giving the narcissist the silent treatment, nor is it a form of abuse.
It is a method used for self-preservation, simply just to protect ourselves, and our energy.
To break free from the narcissist’s warped reality.
It can help protect us from their gaslighting and constant abuse.
And minimize the damage and chaos that they try to create in our lives.
We must accept that there are extremely toxic people beyond our repair that do exist in this world,
and the only way we can manage and protect ourselves around them is to give minimal acknowledgment to their existence around us.
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