Removing yourself from the situation
I always believe that the best way to deal with a narcissist is not to deal with them at all.
Going no contact is the best method, if it is possible to do so.
Removing yourself is not giving the narcissist the silent treatment,
you are not being abusive to them by choosing to walk away.
It is simply to validate and live in your truth, to stop giving the narcissist supply,
and it is important to healing your mental and emotional health which is negatively affected by the narcissist.
Staying in the presence of a narcissist will only drain you of your energy and resources.
You will constantly be gaslighted, exploited and abused.
And our emotions will always be provoked and triggered to be used against us.
Removing yourself from the situation is to take your power back.
If you cannot go complete no contact, then grey rocking the narcissist is the next best method.
Grey rocking is when we respond to the narcissist without our emotions involved.
They are counting on us to react with our emotions.
But by not giving them what they are seeking, it gives them no supply.
And in many cases, they may choose to remove themselves from your presence instead.
If you wish to read the blog post on grey rocking, click on this link- The Grey Rock Method
You are not alone
It can be emotionally and psychologically difficult, when you are the one who is abused.
Then to have your experiences ignored, mocked or denied,
and have to deal with having the blame placed on you just because you expressed your pain.
And the worst part is, because you confronted the narcissist, it caused them a great narcissistic injury.
The truth has threatened their false ego and they feel the need to punish you through a smear campaign.
You can then suffer even more, when others take the side of the narcissist.
There is professional help out there, consider speaking to someone if you are feeling alone and struggling.
Opening up to trusted family members or friends can also help.
Just to have at least one person who believes and validates your truth can be immensely healing.
You are not alone in your experience, many of us have been the victim of reactive abuse.
I pray for you strength and understanding to heal and grow from your experiences.
Since walking away from my toxic with family members and past relationships,
I have met so many genuinely kind, caring and honest people that can take blame and responsibility for their actions.
No one is perfect, but emotionally healthy people will accept blame if they become aware that they are hurting someone else.
Even if they cannot apologize, they still feel empathy enough to laugh about their mistakes and change their behaviors.
Narcissists are not able to do this, they are highly self-absorbed and feel entitled to hurt people deliberately,
because hurting people serves their agenda of protecting the illusion of a perfect self image.
We all deserve to be in healthy relationships without having our emotions constantly crushed by the people we love.
And without having to be treated as an object, or a pawn in someone else’s self-absorbed world.
