My conclusion
I know there are others out there who have been much more damaged by narcissistic abuse than I had been.
I was lucky to wake up to his ways and escape when I did, and I am grateful that I did not have kids with this man.
Many do not understand or are even aware that they are in a narcissistic relationship.
And that is the reason I have created this blog, in hopes of spreading awareness.
I remember how vulnerable and susceptible I was to narcissistic abuse,
until I became aware that it was an actual thing that many other people experienced too.
Once I became aware of what was actually happening to me, and realized I was not alone in my experiences;
that was when I felt real strength to finally break free.
The awareness allowed me to see the relationship dynamic for what it really was.
and this knowledge had given me my power back.
I wish for that same awakening and strength upon all who is struggling to break free from the narcissist’s manipulation and control.
We stay in hopes that it will ‘get better’ because we continue to trust the empty words and false promises from the narcissist.
We stay because we feel an obligation to fulfil the relationship and care about the person we had become loyal to.
We stay because our empathic side mistakenly believes that our love can fix all damaged and broken people.
Please, to all the beautiful empaths out there reading this;
take off your rose-colored glasses and know that God never planned that type of relationship for you.
You have an obligation to fulfil your purpose in the world, to be allowed to grow spiritually and express who you are in life.
With feelings of freedom, peace, love, joy, trust and honesty.
And those feelings need to be reciprocated by our partners, family, or friends.
Our obligation and purpose is not to serve greedy and needy narcissistic individuals, who are not willing to help themselves in the slightest way.
They give nothing in return but are willing to take everything from you while they completely destroy the core of who you are and everything you have.
We deserve to have someone who loves and gives to us as much as we loved and gave to our narc.
Your narcissist will tell you that you will never find anyone as good as them that is willing to give you everything like they did.
Don’t listen to them, they all say this because they are afraid that you will move onto someone that actually respects your time and your worth.
Narcissists see your worth, but they don’t respect it. They only see what they can get from you.
You are seen as a possession to control, a project, a thing to play with, or just another source of supply.
Either, you are better off alone or you will meet someone 1000 times better.
Trauma bond is real, and some days you will want to give in and contact them.
I felt the same, but after a couple of months, my views on the relationship began to change.
Looking back on how much I cared and gave to my ex-narc, I feel like a fool.
I see now that I truly deserved so much more than what I got.
I want more, I always wanted more. And now I wonder how I got myself manipulated into accepting so little in the relationship.
The whole process of no contact and coming out the other side is truly a spiritual awakening.
And I wish for you to experience the same revelation once you decide to go no contact and completely heal from your experience.
When you can to a get to a place of not caring what good or bad is happening in your narcissist’s life…
That is when you know you are truly free.
No contact is the best way to deal with narcissistic relationships.
Focus on self-healing, self-love and self-care.
You deserve to receive the same love and respect you give to everyone else.
Surround yourself with trusted and supportive friends or family members.
Or anybody who may understand what you are going through.
And seek professional help if needed such as a counsellor and or authorities.
Please share this post if you believe this content can benefit others.
One shared bit of knowledge could save another person’s life.
May God bless and protect you on your journey of self discovery. 🙏🏼
Please, also do your own research on this topic.
Anything I share with you on this site is purely my opinions, not instructions, based from my own observations and experiences.
Also having relating it to my own research done on the topics.
There are many great certified psychologists, qualified teachers and even non qualified individuals with life experience to learn from.
Whom they share their experiences and knowledge through written articles, books or YouTube channels.
